Comments on: My dad taught me how to deal with bullies, because he was one https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/ Helping creative professionals achieve their full potential is my mission. Sat, 10 Sep 2022 23:10:28 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Ted https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35881 Sat, 10 Sep 2022 23:10:28 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35881 In reply to Thomas.

Yep, all those ingredients are in play. Thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Thomas https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35879 Sat, 10 Sep 2022 14:27:49 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35879 I see a common denominator in all such cases… Military, emotional abuse, emotional trauma, the need to be seen as strong and fearsome. The idea that all this makes you feel better and stronger.

]]> By: Thomas https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35878 Sat, 10 Sep 2022 14:26:58 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35878 In reply to Trevor.

I see a common denominator in all such cases… Military, emotional abuse, emotional trauma, the need to be seen as strong and fearsome. The idea that all this makes you feel better and stronger.

]]> By: Ted https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35116 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 19:22:40 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35116 In reply to Birgit.

Thanks Birgit, Yep narcissism was certainly a part of it. I hadn’t thought of it in that way. Good call!

]]> By: Birgit https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35115 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 13:34:12 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35115 I really enjoyed your article. I was raised by the same kind of father and ended up marrying the same kind of person. I however do not call them bullies. They are without a doubt narcissists.
For the longest time, I thought of narcissists simply being arrogant and full of themselves people until I learned about the patterns and cycles, the idealizing, devaluing, and discarding to fuel their sick needs.
And I saw all the signs and flags in your article too.

]]> By: Ted https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35114 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 02:38:57 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35114 In reply to Chris Bera.

And Chris, Congratulations on your insights and your progress. These things take reflection, insights and effort.

]]> By: Ted https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35113 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 02:17:19 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35113 In reply to Chris Bera.

Thanks for your note Chris. I still struggle with these issues. My story probably exaggerates my success!

]]> By: Chris Bera https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-35112 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 02:01:56 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-35112 Ted, the relentlessness of both my parent’s bullying still affects me to this day. I admire how you appear to have attained high E.Q (emotional quotient,) and can navigate through business relationships with the nuance that you do. I’m still not where I want to be emotionally. I’ve done ok with my life. I haven’t achieved near to what my I.Q is , but still have achieved decently. Constant fight or flight around people has been a difficult obstacle to overcome. In the end, trusting, healthy relationships are what make life worth living. Thanks for sharing your story. I’m still working on mine, and making progress.

]]> By: Ted https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-34857 Sat, 20 Jun 2020 12:55:30 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-34857 In reply to CN.

Many layers to this stuff CN. Often confusing.

]]> By: CN https://tedleonhardt.com/my-dad-taught-me-how-to-deal-with-bullies-because-he-was-one/#comment-34855 Fri, 19 Jun 2020 23:46:22 +0000 https://tedleonhardt.com/?p=5375#comment-34855 “At least since I have no wife and no kids the vicious cycle of bullying and abuse ends with me!”

Thank you Trevor! I feel better and more normal now after reading your account! My uncle changed from being an older-brother-like best-friend to a bully immediately after he got married. Over 40 years later, I cannot explain why he turned on me like he did, as his wife was not a bad or hard-to-please person.

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